For Easter
Break this year, I got the chance to go home with my friend Mackie to her
hometown in Overland, Kansas. I was sad I would have to spend the holiday away
from family, but luckily Mackie’s family was gracious enough to let me and my
friend Lauren stay with them for the weekend.
Mackie’s
whole family was in town for Easter, so there were plenty of opportunities for
me to just sit back and let them have some family time while I observed from
afar (and yes, I’ll admit it did feel a little creepy). I swear their family
should have their own TV show. They are absolutely hilarious! It was refreshing
to spend a weekend with people that knew how to relax and didn’t take
themselves too seriously.
There was
one instance in particular that I observed which gave me a lot of insight into
her family and their sense of humor. The family was cooking Easter dinner as
Lauren and I sat on the couch and I overheard a conversation between Mackie’s
siblings. Mackie’s sister Libbie was complaining about her headache, whining
that she didn’t feel good and was in a lot of pain. Then, Jake (Mackie’s
brother) retorted with the shocking remark, “Hey well remember that one time I had
cancer?” Overhearing this, my immediate response was to chuckle. That’s horrible,
I know, but it was just the complete opposite of what I was expecting. Libbie
then hit her brother playfully and they both laughed, even gathering a few giggles
from Grandma and Mrs. Louis sitting down near them.
At first I
was surprised they were able to laugh about that subject. I knew Jake had
cancer and I assumed it was a taboo topic between the family. That’s what you
would expect right? Something that serious and horrible I would think wouldn’t be
brought up in such light conversation. But the more I thought about it, the
more I realized it totally made sense. It was a coping mechanism. Even though
Jake is now fully healthy, it is still funny for their family to bring it up
from time to time. It has become an inside joke between them, and though others
may find it offensive, it is something their family can still laugh at, despite
how awful that situation was.
Being able
to eavesdrop on this conversation this showed me a lot about Mackie’s family
and their sense of humor. They are extremely open, not just with each other but
with everyone else as well. Like I mentioned before, they don’t take themselves
too serious. There was tons of
playful, lighthearted joking and poking fun at one another. It gave me some
insight into how close-knit her family is.
Others may
not understand this kind of humor, and I think that makes sense. I probably wouldn’t
if I hadn’t observed her family dynamic. And that is the thing about humor; it
has many different social and contextual aspects. In this case, the humor of
the Louis family bonds them together. Their shared experiences (as awful as
they may be) give them something to laugh about.
Katie,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your blog, especially since you spent the weekend in my hometown, although it's Overland PARK, Kansas, not just Overland (hahahaha common mistake) I really liked how you included the conversation between Mackie's siblings and how you thought cancer was taboo. That would be my expectation as well, but it's really great that the family can look back on that and now laugh! It really shows their strength as a family, and how much of a positive outlook they have on life. It gave a good insight onto the Louis family dynamic, and I thoroughly enjoyed your analysis. Next time you visit Mackie you will have to tell me and we can meet up!